i took today off from work and got to spend quite a bit of time reading my Bible, praying and journaling. i’m camping out in colossians (as i mentioned yesterday) and was smacked with some awesome truth this morning. BUT, i’m still processing it. so i’m not going to try to write about that at the moment as i think it needs to marinate in my head a bit before it’s ready to serve :-)
that being said, yesterday mr. z and i got to live life like a married couple. it was such a blessing. after church we ran errands together. i dragged the poor guy to three different stores in my pursuit of organic and all natural ingredients for dinner. he was a trooper though and i loved it. it might seem silly, but with his work schedule right now, we rarely get to do the ordinary things of life together, like run errands.
when we got home we dove right into our tasks. me, cooking dinner. mr. z, cleaning out and organizing the closet under the steps. yep, i’ve been blessed with a super organized and orderly husband. i’m sure my friends, especially former roommates, are not surprised that the Lord would pair me with an orderly type.
i was hoping to help mr. z but i, as i often do, underestimated the high maintenance nature of the recipe i chose for dinner. needless to say, he didn’t need my help anyway. now, we have an organized closet and we were able to enjoy a yummy meal that provided plenty of leftovers for the week (since i HATE cooking for one).
as wonderful as an organized closet is and the meal may have been, that’s not why i’m writing today. i’m writing because of something i was told before we got married.
when i had my bridal shower i asked that all the ladies would bring a small nugget of wisdom for me. what do they wish they had known before they got married? Or, what had they found makes a healthy marriage?
my cousin said teamwork. they have had two children in the three years they’ve been married and said one of the best things they’ve done is intentionally work together and lean on each other. no one bears more of the burdens than the other.
this concept might seem rather obvious, but having experienced it a few times already in the short time we’ve been married, i can see why teamwork is essential. ecclesiates 4 says:
9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
i’m discovering the beautiful things about marriage. and there are many. and more often than not, they are simple. like teamwork. my dad said at our wedding, marriage isn’t that hard. humans make it hard. as time goes on i’ll see how true that is. but for now, i can see the simple beauty in the God created team of marriage.